Nothing frustrates me more, than having a disagreement before going to bed, I know that old saying about “never going to be angry” but does that really happen in life or is that another fairytale happy ending?
Those sleepless nights of tossing and turning, while the other person seems to have no conscience and sleeps like a baby. That sleeping baby just frustrates you more as you are losing sleep.
Then the morning comes and you wake up exhausted because you just finally fell asleep a few hours before.
You drag yourself out of bed and then bam, it hits you square in the face, that crazy situation where the other person acts as if nothing happened! They slept the argument off like a bad night out on the town. Instead you are hung over from the emotional turmoil of unfinished business. They speak to you just like any other day and they are expecting the same in return. I just love it, just sweep it under the rug and it goes away. I hate to tell you that dirt is still under the rug waiting for someone to clean it up.
What do you do in this situation? Bring it back up, risking starting the whole Hatfield and McCoys feud again. Do you apologize or stew waiting for an apology? Do you go for days without speaking waiting for the storm to pass?
I know, I have lived this story more times than I care for in all of my relationships. Many times these situations and disagreements arise from our own self insecurities because we allow the words of others to offend us and sometimes define us. Sometimes others are just trying to help but we can’t take constructive criticism, instead we take it as a personal bullet to our ego.
I do know one thing in life, these situations are not healthy in life, we must discuss and work to resolve these issues in order to find common ground. We don’t have to agree with one another but we must learn not to take it as a personal attack. I know, these are things that I must work on, I don’t have the answer or the solution but I continue to grow everyday to learn how to deal with these situations better so that I don’t have that personal emotional hangover. I am trying to learn how not to let the sunset on my anger, an so should you…but if you have figured out the magical potion to this age old problem, please share.
You’re not alone, you are loved,
The Girl that was Abandon